[Tamra]

(My dad and lives with my mom who I got a Mother’s Day gift for. We did pictures as a family at Christmas, so he has pictures of us. I also don’t want to write a heartfelt message to him or anything due to the emotional strain on our relationship, but I know if he doesn’t get something it will look bad and make him feel badly.)

I usually call him and get him an amazon card.

[Jamspice]

A hand written letter reflecting on what life was before estrangement. What it was like without him. And what you want the future to be. When that have been settled. Then you may send a gift.

[Kathy]

Dad coffee mug with kids photo from cvs

[Christine]

my go to is always the Dollar store. for little to no money you can send a box full of nice simple gifts.

[Jamspice]

Handmade card from the child with a picture. No gift but kind of you to do.
Or is this your Father? Again a card with kind words.

[Meredith]

If he has grandkids, a calendar with photos of them. CVS or Costco makes them pretty quickly.

[Robyn]

If he reads maybe a book, some after shave, a box of candy, if he gardens maybe some seeds and flower pot, a container of hard candy, you can send a card but you don’t have to write anything heartfelt just sign thinking of you and your name – that would be the truth you were thinking of him,
If he grills maybe a grill tool- I understand how hard this is similar circumstances for me.

[Angie]

Maybe a book to fill in about your family tree? Your mom might enjoy adding her side of the family too. And it expresses your connection to your dad, without overwhelming either of you emotionally.

[Lela]

I was never able to send my dad a Card on Father’s Day. They all said mushy stuff. And I didn’t feel that way about my dad. On night driving down the road something said to me clear as a bell. Say you forgive him. I said out loud you have got to be kidding. No the voice back just forgive. I don’t think so was my response.

Just say I forgive him was what the voice said. My response as I was crying hard.

I may say it but that doesn’t mean I forgive him. So I said I forgive him.

Something reached at my stomach and it felt like a knife pulled out of my stomach. That year I was able to write a card. Telling my dad that we had no relationship because of what he had done. But I forgave him anyway. When I went home around Christmas time he whispered he was sorry. I know it didn’t stop him he was a sick man but I forgave and it freed me And I am today a free woman.

[Jeannie]

One of your favorite books that you think he might like,. with an inscription describing why you like it so much for him. Wrapped nicely and mailed with a thoughtful card.

[Lori]

Pray about what you should do. I have an estranged relationship with a family member (not by my choosing) and I have prayed about what I should say etc for two years. Recently I had been reading a devotional to my kids and three nights in a row it spoke directly to me. I did end up taking that first step and reaching out. All you can do is do what YOU feel is right. You can’t control how someone else will feel whether you do or don’t get them a gift or card. Do what feels right to you even if that means sending nothing.

[Fran]

I get it. My father was a jerk. Flowers delivered with a card that says happy father’s day with your name. This way he saves face and no unnecessary drama is added to the fire.

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