[Rochelle]

Mommas i need some insights,sound advice and opinions on what would be the best solution on this matter. We had some problem on our rental home,after the flooding our landlord decided to renovate the entire house,make it into typhoon proof home,she gives us an option to stay when construction is finished, but she’s gonna increase the rent from 5000php into 7500php which is im afraid we cannot afford,.option we are weighing right now is to look for another cheaper rental home but given the devastation on our island it will be very difficult to find one,other is we will moved in again in my parent’s home, occupy one room there, we live rent free but will share other utilities like electric, water, food, we’ve lost a lot of stuff specially kitchenware and utensils,if we decide to moved in with my parents then we dont need to worry buying those stuff and we got to have to start our savings for construction of our own home .

We have one bonus son so we are considering him into whatever decision we will make,he’s 17 yrs old boy and all my kids are girls so we cannot lived all in just one room,he needs privacy,so were considering finding boarding house near his school for him which is totally fine with him,plus the fact that there will be some repair needed in the room we are occupying.

I am torn between going back to my parent’s house and work on until we recover from this and saved to reopen my shop or look and moved in another rental homes which wil be very hard as i need to consider location,it should be near at my daughters school and my shop.

I can’t think straight right now,i guess im too exhausted with all this,typhoons every week.so much devastation everywhere.

And now another one is coming and our island will be the first to be affected by this.

[Melissa]

It’s a sacrifice but needed. Temporarily move in with your parents. Make a written plan and budget of what you will contribute monetarily and physically.

Make a goal of what you need to start over and a timeline. This is a gift from your parents and temporary. Don’t let anyone forget that. It is temporary!

Make sure your bonus son is included in many family things, every week.

He isn’t living with you but he needs to feel like he’s still a big part of the family.

Wishing you much love and success

[Victoria]

Don’t panic! Review all options, including finding a job for some extra cash helping others to clean, organize, prepare for the next typhoon.

Even baby sitting or running errands for a while you explore your own options.

Maybe your son, maybe the girls too, can get a parttime job to help. If you can earn enough extra to pay the additional cost – you won’t need to move and the property will be made safer for all when the remodel is done.

As for getting replacement dishes, etc. there are probably many with the same issue, but know you don’t need “new” items, just items that are functional for now.

Don’t forget to check with all agencies and options for help to see what is available.

You can also start looking for a smaller home, discuss all options with your children, see what they say, want to do, can do to help.

It is time for the family to join together.

[Cameo]

First, I’m sorry that you’re in this position & that your community has gone through a natural disaster.

I would move in w/ your parents. It will be an opportunity to get refocused, to rest together, & also will give valuable time to your family all back together.

W/ your bonus baby being nearly a young man, this also sets him up w/ a place of his own that he may be able to stay in for years to come (if it works for ya’ll).

There is no shame with pooling resources together at any time, but especially after so much destruction.

You are saving money & I’m sure you’ll be able to help your parents as well. Multigenerational living is a blessing.

[Debbie]

I’m so sorry you are in this position, but seems to me that moving in with your parents is your best option for now, while you continue to look for somewhere else, save money and plan for your future.

Best of luck to you!

[Tina]

Move in with the parents. Unless there is some emotional stuff between you it’s a no brainier. Needs must.

It will be a valuable time for your kids.

Make sure your parents are not immersed with your kids 24/7 we need time to recover after being around the grands.

Your parents wiil receive your help around the home and garden too.

Split cooking chores. Organise cleaning chores.

It should work out. You can alway move when you find a suitable rental.

Or save up and get a mobile home and place it in their garden.

[Michele]

If there room for a camping trailer? Do your parents have room to build on, are they willing and f you paid them rent ti help pay for supplies.

[Susan]

Back in w/ folks & save every penny possible! Think short term sacrifice for long term gain

[Tammy]

Oh, I’m so sorry. I’m glad you’re all safe but what a blow to your family.

You’ve come so far. Having said that…

I know if you move back with your parents a short time to save again you’ll once again start over and be better for it.

It sounds like as hard as it may be it may be your best option. Good luck and hugs.

[Rachel]

I’m so sorry. Breathe and return home. It’s not forever, just a season. Cherish the time you have to do that, build up again and heal.

Have faith the path meant for you will be revealed in its own season.

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